Menifee Mom: Change is Difficult, but Sometimes Necessary

By Jane Walker


I’ve written about it before, and I find myself in the midst of so many changes lately, I cannot help but write about it again.

Just when you think you have it all figured out -- your children, your family, your work, your life -- a curveball comes your way and throws you off. You have two choices: Resist or embrace.

My whole life, I have been quite strong-willed; always knowing what my heart and mind “want”. I definitely have pushed some things, just because I’ve got a lot of drive. Sometimes because of my lack of patience, certain things would happen for me, but not without consequence. Then I think to myself, “Was it really worth it?”

What if I had stepped back and practiced patience and more mindfulness? Would I have thought I wanted something as badly? What if I had someone to pound a little reason into my head? Would I have been OK with waiting?

I think the answer to both of those questions is “yes”. So now I find myself really slowing down, taking more of a thinker's approach to everything. I find myself meditating and praying on decisions and choices that are to be made. I’m listening more to the world around me and what this life may have in store for me, if I am just patient enough.

One of the biggest changes going on right now is my departure from the area I’ve called “home” for the last six years. The move will help my little family and I figure some stuff out, and work on where we go from here. Life has dealt us quite a hand, and for a long time, there were only band-aids set in place, while we chugged along, looking for the light at the end of the tunnel. It will be refreshing yet bittersweet, because I’ve made some incredible connections down here and have had amazing opportunities!

I’m embracing this change, and looking at what possibilities can happen if I just let it be. I know it will be an adjustment for all of us, and I can only hope that the time spent away from my husband, and Lucy’s time spent away from her dad, isn’t long before the next visit.

This day and age, I’m seeing more and more families having to do very untraditional things, just to stay together and build their life up. I look at how fortunate we are to have family not so far away, and someone who has the room to house us while we go through this transition. Focusing on the many blessings laid out in front of us, versus how difficult this time might be, really humbles my heart.

I’m also very excited for my daughter to spend some much needed time with her family. They say that it takes a village to raise a child; we sure haven’t had that village, so the support and help is going to be priceless.

Thank you for embracing me as “Menifee Mom” for this short while. I thoroughly enjoy writing, and I hope that where I end up, I can continue. I love sharing my stories, experiences, struggles and triumphs with everyone out there. My biggest hope is that I might inspire, motivate or uplift someone who needs it.

 You can find me on Facebook on my personal page, ‘Love Run Surf Yoga’, where I post about my journey in this life. It's a mish-mash of favorite activities, recipes, outings, inspirational people, quotes etc. Until then, I bid you all adieu.


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